Category Archives: Parent Trap

The babysitters club

Elly has already extolled the virtues of taking your baby out in the evening here, and while I can appreciate the benefits of being accompanied by a little wingperson, this isn’t something that Mr Cath and I have really done much with Pip. After the first few months, during which his sleep was all over the place anyway, we introduced earlier bedtimes and have proceeded with baby-free evenings ever since. Although it initially made perfect sense for Pip’s first and longest sleep to correspond with ours, this ultimately wore thin and after discovering why baby monitors exist we haven’t looked back. As for actually venturing out of the house, these exciting occasions have been adults-only.

I suppose we could take him out asleep – in the carseat or buggy or whatever – but why would we do that, when instead we can employ one of the most joy-inducing concepts known to parent: the babysitter!


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Strings attached

It is difficult to know where to start on the parenting schools of thought – each seems a minefield and I’m finding it hard to know what to believe. Each parenting approach believes theirs is the best and will guarantee that Elphie will become a functional and productive member of society, whereas all other methods are at best hokey and at worst evil.

Attachment Parenting is the brainchild of the Sears’, or Dr Bill and Martha to their friends, whose many years in paediatrics, lactation support and childrearing eight children has led them to the conclusion that “Attachment parenting is a style of caring for your infant that brings out the best in the baby and the best in the parents”. Job done then!

I find the Attachment Parenting International description a little more helpful:
“The essence of Attachment Parenting is about forming and nurturing strong connections between parents and their children. Attachment Parenting challenges us as parents to treat our children with kindness, respect and dignity, and to model in our interactions with them the way we’d like them to interact with others.”
The strong attachment it is trying to engender is based on Bowlby’s Attachment Theory, and essentially providing the parenting style that in theory should give you the best shot of achieving secure attachment.

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